How many of you are still living in the past? Are you angry at your mother, father or sibling or anyone that has wronged you? Are you angry that they could not fight their demons of drug addiction, alcohol abuse, sex abuse, verbal or physical abuse or any other demon? Are you angry with yourself for not being able to prevent the unfortunate events that happened to you?
Of course you are, but it is that same anger that causes you to be stuck in the past, that same anger that causes you shut down and disconnect yourselves from others. It is that same anger and hurt that causes you to not trust anyone. It is the battle of forgiveness that we are unwilling to face!
We allow the past to dictate our lives if we do not LET IT GO! The unfortunate experiences of our past tend to hold us hostage. This causes us to have unhealthy relationships with our mates, children and the all of the people who are closest to us. Some of us end up creating similar patterns or even worse, the exact same patterns of our accuser and creating our own demons.
In order to make peace with your past you must acknowledge the hurt, the pain and wrong doing committed. Acknowledge that your accuser have not dealt with their own mishaps in their own lives which was a result of the wrong doing committed against you. But, you must stand up and face your own truth and realize that forgiveness is the only way to move forward in order to start living a happy life! “I realize that my issues of abandonment by my father caused me not to trust, and to seek love in all the wrong places.” “I realize that my mother’s addiction to drugs was not meant to hurt me, but instead a way to escape the reality of her own failures.” “I realize that the man who touched me in an inappropriate manner was himself touched during his childhood.”
Although we are unable to change the past we can change our future. Instead of feeding the seed of bitterness and allowing it grow we must pull it from the root and destroy it thereby completely letting go. It is only when you are truly willing to confront your past and forgive that you can move forward.
Forgiveness is so hard and it is understandable because you felt betrayed, violated, abandoned, helpless, and alone. It is important to know that you are not alone and your past experiences can be used in a way to help others like yourself, but in order to do that you must begin with self forgiveness, not only your accuser!
One way of to start forgiving yourself is by talking to your creator and asking for forgiveness. Once you have released your prayer you must let it go at that time. A prayer for the one who wronged you is warranted as well. When you have truly released it you will know because you will feel a sense of inner peace.
Now you can begin your journey of the life you were meant to live and be truly happy. You can now be a better mate, a better mother, a better daughter, a better sister and a better friend. The world is ready to hear your story and of your journey. They will know that you have risen up against the odds and made it and now you can inspire them to forgive as well.
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this article is soo imperative for people 2read & do.
I can relate to this completely…I was disappointed greatly by two men who were suppose to play the most important and crucial roles in my life, but didn't..Thing is I actually called both of them years ago and told them that I had forgiven them and released the anger. One major thing that I've recently come to realize that I did not do was to ask God for healing from the hurt. And I'm really just coming to that realization, that the wounds of hurt and disappointment are still there. I believe that I was so determined to move on and become tough and act as if what they did didn't matter much, oh but it did. So, at 44, God revealed to me that althoughI may not be angry anymore…I was affected by what they did in a different way. So, I was moved to write them both a 'love note', to express things that I was too proud to express beforehand. It was therapeutic for me, because that was my way of releasing the hurt and making them accountable for their actions. I wasn't accusatory or hateful in my approach, just honest. How they receive it is in God's hands, but it helped me get the bad stuff out.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I too had to make peace with my father for not being around for me. This is what inspired me to write this article. You had a good way of healing and that was by you sending them a love note. I unfornately, did not have the chance to express my feelings to my father, but I was glad to see him one final time before his passing. I believe he knew I cared because when he was sick I was there and I did tell him I loved him and he said it in return! It feels great to express those feelings and to have finally made peace!
M.S.Roopchand
So many of us need to "release the anger and hurt". We're too beautiful to carry that around. Thank you for sharing Kenya.
This article is important, timely and is a reminder for us all to release the demons of our past for good, so that we can embrace the blessings of today. Great job sis.
Thank you much!