Has marriage and all its responsibilities made you second guess walking down the aisle? Don’t give up now; today decide that your marriage is worth saving! Remember your first date, the moment you got engaged or how about the morning you woke up and just watched your spouse sleep. Think back on all the good times, play a few love songs and go through your wedding pictures. Whatever you have to do to save your marriage is worth doing. And yes, you may have to do this with tears on your face. The important thing is not quitting because marriage and all its joys are priceless.
No matter what your issues are forgiveness is going to be very vital to obtaining a successful marriage. I’m not belittling the things you went through; however remember the solution is bigger than the problem. Any situation should be acknowledged with verbal discussions; an apology must be made, uncover the root to why the action occurred. Next, set boundaries to prevent the action from happening again and stick to them. Then understand sometimes forgiveness takes time. The thought of anger may at times resurface, but keep in mind forgiveness is a choice.
Begin finding new ways to express to your spouse, why you married them. Especially do this when you feel your spouse doesn’t deserve it. Marriage is about helping the other person succeed. If they are not “acting” their best show them that your love will push them into “becoming” their best! Don’t allow their actions to change your good character, if you’re nice remain nice. Make their favorite breakfast, write a love note and slip it in their pocket, surprise them with lunch at work or simply smile and say I love you.
Think about this if your child keep getting in trouble with the law then went to jail would you say I’m done with this child. Then leave them in there alone to teach them a lesson? Not most parents, the mom usually says “when you were born I knew there was something special about you, even thou you’re in jail now it won’t be forever because you have something great on the inside of you. I will never give up on you” now with that same passion and devotion turn to your spouse and tell them “I will never give up on us, let’s make it work”
By Tameeka Williamson
Tameeka is married to Rodney Williamson they have four lovely children. She is the author of “All Is Forgiven, When Rooted In Love” and is currently working on her second book.